Sunday, January 18, 2015

How to Hook Up At a Party

Look like Ryan Gosling – You know why girls swoon over Ryan Gosling? Because he looks good. Now it doesn’t matter if you’re not as fit or as wealthy, you can still try to bathe, wear deo, trim your beard, gel your hair and put on some fresh ironed clothes. If you’re confused about what to wear, a woman always loves a crisp white shirt and well-fitted jeans on a man. If it’s a formal event, wear a jacket. Oh…a jacket would make you win half the battle.

Speak like Mark Zuckerberg – No not the guy who played him in the movie, the real man. He is intelligent, philanthropic and wears a nice smile. He is appealing. He speaks when spoken to. He’s not bragging about his work, money or life. He’s down to earth. Be cool, comfortable, easy going. Mingle with a group and speak to all women at the party. Thin you deserve to be there. Know that women are interested in you when you smile sincerely and not lecherously.

Think like James Bond – You’re charismatic, suave, sexy, mind blowing. Feel it. And then speak to a woman who you like, or the woman who has come over. Be intelligent. Don’t ogle at her breasts. Be interested in her. “If I had to take you on a date, which movie would you like to see?” Ask her what she likes to do. Give her the spotlight but don’t be creepy. Too many personal questions will make her think you’re stalking her. Smile and nod your head as if you really care. Be mysterious.

Charm like Shah Rukh Khan – Women love SRK. Not because he’s a great actor, but because when he looks at you, you’re the only one he’s thinking of. Give her undivided attention. Ask her for a dance if there’s a dance floor. Seclude her to another area where you can hear her better – the terrace, a corridor, etc. Ask her if she would like to smoke. This way you can spend some more time dazzling her. Talk about your hobbies and your work. Don’t be overconfident. Stay humble and shift focus back to her.

Friendly like Chandler – Before Monica and Chandler hooked up she always thought of him as a friend. At a party you don’t want a woman to think of you as someone she can confide in. As soon as she feels comfortable with you, she won’t sleep with you. If she mentions she has a boyfriend, say you’re not interested in breaking anything up and thank her and walk away. If she still chooses to spend time with you, then you’ve got her hooked. If she says you can become good friends, then you must immediately say you’re too enamoured to remain friends and again walk away. Let her make the choice to come to you. Or you can go the Chandler way and become friends until you confess you have feelings for her one fine day in the future.

Spend like Mr. Big – Women have watched Sex and the City, a TV show where the male protagonists had lots of money. A woman likes the fact that her man can afford her high maintenance life. If you can buy her a drink, offer to take her out for dinner and even say you will get her a new dress if you rip her current one off, it shows you can afford expensive things in life. Women are attracted to men who are doing well in life as compared to men who are still struggling.

Sing like Sinatra – Women love a man who can sing or/and play an instrument. It’s something about the lyrics or the melody in his voice that will make a woman instantly attracted to him. So at a party if there’s karaoke, do sing a song. And if there isn’t say that you would like to sing two lines of a song that you’re reminded of when she speaks. Practice any song at home before you get to the party. Always sing the same song that you’re most confident in. Don’t sing the whole song till you’re prompted by her.

Funny like Farhan Akhtar – This man has been called the thinking woman’s ideal man. He’s witty and sharp and he may not have the best body or greatest dress sense but he’s sincere, puns a lot, comes up with great stories and is the master of many trades. That could be you. You don’t always need to pretend to be someone you’re not. You can just laugh at yourself and tell her an anecdote about your past that was humiliating and yet here you are hoping that the most beautiful woman in the room might like you more than that cool man over there in the corner. Endearing men always score!

Aloof like Mr Darcy – Women like brooding, aloof, powerful, dominant men. They like a bad boy they can tame. First you must find a woman who is also eyeing you as much as you are eyeing her. Then walk over to her and pay her a compliment. “I couldn’t help but admire your eyes from all the way across the room and I just needed to get a closer look.” If she’s with friends say “Enjoy your evening” and walk away, a distance where she can still see you. Smile at her if she’s still sitting with friends. Don’t start chatting with other people. Sit separately with your drink. Let her come to you.

Be You – If you like a girl, tell her. Compliment her on her eyes, her smile and the way she carries her dress. Talk to her about yourself. If you had a Twitter bio what would it say? Ask her. Play twenty questions about the person she is. Does she like parties or quiet dinners at home? Tell her what your future plans her. “I’m planning to take a cooking class to make a quiet dinner for someone in the near future.” Make her laugh.

Some women might hook up and some women even after everything you do just won’t. They came to the party to have a good time and not hook up. Don’t take it personally. In the end, have a wonderful time at the party. The more you go out to just have fun, the more you’ll have a great holiday season. 

From my Maxim Column December 2014 issue. 

Thursday, January 8, 2015

Broken is Beautiful. Kintsugi

"Most people would like damages to their broken items to be concealed and hidden by repair making the object look like new. But the Japanese art of Kintsugi follows a different philosophy. Rather than disguising the breakage, kintsugi restores the broken item incorporating the damage into the aesthetic of the restored item, making it part of the object’s history."
In life aren't we all broken? Broken relationships. Broken friendships. Broken houses. Broken jobs. We try to leave the past behind. Not dwell on it. Focus on the future. Be positive.
But what if the broken pieces are truly beautiful when mended. Shouldn't we give credit to that? The healing. The mending. The chipped fragments of our life that we put together. Instead of discarding it shouldn't we embrace it? Be proud of it? Wear it like a badge of honour rather than hide it away as a past, a regret, a choice we don't want to think about.
We mend our life with "gold"
For me that gold signifies courage, strength, intelligence, positivity. We might be this wonderful pottery that God made. That was broken with life and healed with gold.
Kintsugi.
An art...of living life with honour.

10 Sex Questions From Men - Uncensored

1) I have fantasized about making love in the kitchen but my girlfriend doesn’t believe in experimenting. How do I convince her?

I’m glad that you’re trying to spice things up. However, you must realise that most women have an orgasm in the missionary position on a bed rather than being tangled in strange postures in various rooms. Therefore, you must tell your girlfriend that maybe the sex in the kitchen or anywhere else is not just about an orgasm. It’s about the adventure and the memories you’re creating together.
Then there are two ways to do this correctly. One when you’re having foreplay, coax her into the kitchen and find a comfortable spot. You must have got the kitchen cleaned first. You can’t have dirty dishes lying around. Nothing distracts a woman more than wanting to scream at her maid for not clearing up!! Make sure the lights are dimmed or have a candle lit. Draw the curtains if your girlfriend is shy. She might not like voyeuristic sex.
The second way is to start experimenting in other areas like the drawing room on a sofa or the bathroom and then move to the kitchen. Maybe the cold marble slab is not appealing to her. As Ma Sarita, the tantric sex expert claims “Women's needs from sex revolve around love, companionship and intimacy whereas a man seeks excitation, orgasm and ejaculation.” Be sure to give her plenty of love before you initiate the excitement. All the best!

2) In all the relationships that I’ve had, it’s been a tough task to decode what turned her on. What are a major turn on for a woman?

The scent of a man is very important. If you smell good, you’ve already won half the battle. Then the usual qualities would work – how you treat a woman, making her feel important, giving undivided attention, being funny, be smart, not arrogant or too cool, and never jump to have sex. Don’t talk about past relationships or hope for her to meet your parents on the first date, support her dreams, and be interested in her ideas. When you’ve succeeded in winning her attention, be gentle and firm in bed. Know when to lead and when to let her take over. In a Cosmopolitan survey of what women wanted from men, how a man looked or what he earned was lower than how he made her feel. Always remember that. Good luck!

3) I am in my late 20s and been in a relationship for the last 4 years. But for the past 1 and a half years my girlfriend has been pressurizing me to be a “man”. We have an amazing sex life and a smooth relationship, so I don’t understand what she mean? Help!

It takes time for a man to open up to a woman about his life and his problems. And women are always pressurizing men to “share more.” But when they do, women don’t really want to hear it on a daily basis! Have you been unloading all your problems to her too often? Maybe she needs a little more listening from your side and less cribbing? Don’t hunt for a mother in her. Make sure the bathroom is clean and you put away your own ironed clothes if you’re living with her. Nurture her by taking her out on dates. She needs to feel protected. Drop her home if she’s working late. Take charge of both your goals and dreams and make decisions. If she has a wish, fulfil it. If she is upset, angry, or hurt, listen to her. Give advice only when she asks for it and stop whining in return about how you’re hurt or upset too. Wear a little less pink! Keep an unshaven look for a few days and try something new in bed.  You’ll be man enough for her to never look at another male species.

4) I have just got into a relationship with a lovely, funny woman. She doesn’t like the idea of going out and it is too soon to take her home. I really like her and want her. What should I do?
Indian women are sometimes shy and conservative. So start by taking her in a group of friends or a double date – her girl friend and another guy with both of you. Do something casual like watching a movie or going for coffee. Once you get to know her better then plan an outing doing what she likes – trekking, going to the bookstore, walk in the park, etc. Ask her if she would like to do it with just you. Remember the more conversation you have with her, the closer you will get. Making yourself vulnerable, open and staying honest will always go a long way in love.  

5) My girlfriend is on good terms with my best friend and she talks a lot about him. I recently spotted them together in a bar. They said it was a coincidence. Am I being too possessive or is it time to confront her?
It’s time to confront her. There are no coincidences.

6) My girlfriend complains that there isn’t enough foreplay. Tips?
Here are a few tips of foreplay:
  • Don’t rush to undress.
  • Kiss a little longer.
  • Play with her hair, ears, neck.
  • Whisper sweet nothings in her ear – you’re so beautiful, your hair is so luscious, you’re the best kisser ever...
  • Gently rub your hands down her back with the tips of your fingers.
  • Move hands slowly over breasts.
  • Gently suck on nipples.
  • Keep a surprise element when you go down on her. Don’t rush it.   
  • Use props if you need to. Silk scarves, ties, blindfold...
  • Take your time before actual coitus.
7) I have been in a relationship for 3 and half years and it feels like she is the boss in the bed. It was fun but I’m a little unsatisfied of late. Any moves I can use?
Maybe she takes charge in bed because she feels she needs to. If you show her how you can please her, she won’t be so dominating. Here are a few tips:
  • Experiment with role play. Tell her to wear your office shirt and nothing underneath and come into the room where you’re in bed. Or something that fuels your imagination and hers with household props.
  • Don’t ask too many questions. “Do you want me to turn off the lights? Is the ac ok? Are you comfortable? Do you want to eat something first?” Stop it!
  • Tell her what you want. “I want you to take your clothes off.” “I want you to sit on that chair.” “I want you to loosen your hair.” Don’t take her opinion on it. Be firm.
  • Speak dirty. Ask her how she’s feeling. “Tell me how much you like it.” “Moan for me.”
  • Be bold in touching her, not aggressive and rough, but firm and confident.
  • Spend time in all her erogenous zones instead of just going to only one or two.
  • Change positions. You don’t need to have sex in just one way. It’s not just about the orgasm. It’s about having fun and experimenting in weird ways that makes you connect with each other better.
  • Compliment her for her work, choices, managing home, etc. Some women feel they need to be aggressive in bed to prove a point that they are superwoman. You must converse with her enough to make her feel she’s great in whatever she does. 
  • Remind yourself that you’re a powerful personality too. Not just in bed but every day. When that confidence shines through, you’ll conquer anything!
8) I am 30 but older woman of 50 really turn me on. I really want to get with one of them. Shall I?
Try your luck but older women always come with baggage. They’re not going to marry you, have your children or meet your parents. If it’s fun with no emotional attachment that you seek, go for it. Otherwise, stick to women your own age who can develop the relationship further if you fall in love.

9) My girlfriend gets randy while kissing, it’s almost like she is chewing me. It does turn me on but she needs to slow down a bit. How can I tell her without pissing her off?

First you need to appreciate the fact that the woman loves kissing you. Tell her that you would be even more turned on if it was done slower. Tell her there’s no hurry, you’re not going anywhere and you want to please her as well. Probably she’s seen this in movies and is displaying it in real life. Show her how to kiss better. Sometimes gentle criticism and soft encouragement to improve could help in keeping your lips intact.

10) I’ve been married for 10 years, tried all kinds of positions and places. It doesn’t feel as good in bed as it used to. Any tips on how I can spice things up?

The India Today Sex Survey of 2012 showed that 35 per cent woman admit to reading or watching pornography, as opposed to 13 per cent a decade ago. You can start with watching a great porn movie together! Then move on to planning a hotel night where she’s not worried about the household problems. If you have children keep a relative/ nanny at home while you’re away for the night. Plan a longer vacation without children that could spice up the relationship. You can also try to be romantic. Send her some negligee with a note that she would look wonderful wearing it. Plan a spa day for her so she’s relaxed.
Maybe even have some time away from each other so that when you meet, the craving and passion comes back. Passion always comes from the mind. The body only follows. If you believe that you’re with the most beautiful woman in the world like you did when you married her, feel it, accept it, prove it!



Wednesday, January 7, 2015

The Importance of Loneliness

A friend told me recently: It’s been a year since my divorce. Maybe I should find a man. I’m so lonely.
And that got me thinking.

What is wrong with loneliness?

It’s the most powerful emotion to have.

It’s not from happiness, peace or ambition that we grow. It’s from loneliness. So many couples think that marriage and being with another human being is supposed to fill a void. But no one realizes that even if you’re with someone that void is a gift. 

Loneliness is powerful. 

It gives you a sense of what you’re lacking. And that lack is not just time with your spouse. It’s a lack of more energy in your life. It’s the universe’s way of telling you are so much more. What more do you want to do. Besides this person in your life, what else can you be? And only from loneliness will your soul grow. 

It’s sad when you see couples just being together all the time. Doing the same things. Feeling the same way having common emotions and values and hooping for the same dreams of bigger houses better cars good education for kids. And then partying together, spending every minute either together or in filling their time with people and work. 

So often we shun loneliness thinking that it is negative. It makes us depressed. Not being able to understand that it is highly under rated. We must embrace it. And from there we will grow. Enjoy your time alone. Enjoy your space. And reflect on yourself. Be lonely. It’s worth it.


Tuesday, January 6, 2015

10 New Year Resolutions To Think About



1. I will try to understand the people who are important to me and give them attention. I will not focus on negative people and trying to fix their problems.

 
2. I will not let petty things bother me. There is a larger game play in action. I will focus on that.
 
3. I will raise my children to be equal and kind and understanding. I will not give in to every demand of theirs.

4. I will meditate every day for at least 15 minutes. I believe in a higher power and my inner power. I will tap into that when I’m depressed, lonely, upset, disappointed, angry, or annoyed.
 
5. I will walk/jog/gym/yoga at least five times a week. Not just to be thin but to be fit for life. 

6. I will not feel guilty about taking time for myself and understanding what my soul desires. Even if this means skipping a few lunches and dinners with friends and important people.

7. I will not be indifferent to the needs of others. I will donate clothes, money, time and energy to those who are in need and it will not include family and friends.

8. I will realize that I need to work to earn money but it’s not what defines me. I have many layers of myself to discover and I will take new chances. 

9. I will not let people, situations, opinions, and other’s success affect me. I will not be filled with self doubt! My time will come. I will work hard today to fulfill my goal. 

10. I will not share every idea, every moment, and every picture of me on a social media site. I do not need appreciation or validation. I am complete in myself. My moments are precious to me and I cherish them.

Thursday, January 1, 2015

2015 Leo Horoscope

In 2015 the Leo can be considered the lucky ones! Everything you dream of can come true and under even better circumstances than you think. It’s not only that Jupiter, the planet of grand achievements and opportunities, will stay in your Zodiac till August, but also other planets will provide Leo with numerous surprising opportunities for it to solidify its “royal status”. After all, among all people on earth and among all the stars in the skies there is hardly a nobler Zodiac sign than yours: only you can do a noble gesture with such grandeur even without taking your own interests into consideration. In 2015 as always nothing will just be given to you by the birthright, but what you win in an honest fight will be especially valuable to you since it’ll be granted to you on your terms! You should agree that staying true to your life credo is success in itself!

Leo horoscope for 2015 notes that in the first half of the year you, dear Lions, will notice that you’ve become less reserved, more courageous and decisive, ready to fight any troubles that life can bring you. At some point you may suddenly feel like being in the spotlight more often, going to more of formal events and visiting more entertainment establishments; you would want to shine like the brightest star whose sparkle can hardly be outdone by anyone at all. Regardless of the way it is manifested, your popularity will grow and grow fast – so fast that on waking up in your bed next morning you will feel a new person as if you were born again. Those of you who have been in the shadow living a modest ascetic life will suddenly feel so elevated that it can literally be compared to only having wings behind your back and soaring above the crowd of gapers. It can even be said that Leo 2015 and Leo 2015 are two completely different persons. People around you will notice the changes: you’ll become more benevolent, supportive and magnanimous. These newly discovered qualities will earn you reputation and authority. In early 2015 many of you will strive for drastic changes in your appearance: you’d want to change your image, hair, etc. to become a new person and feel refreshed. You can go ahead and boldly experiment with your image.

It should be mentioned that the Lions of creative professions have strong chances to be recognized at what they do and become known. By the way, some “artistic” Lions can get so stuck up under the influence of their popularity that they would be able to do something inappropriate or they can get so self-confident in what they do that they would devise something so “out there” that the society would not approve of it. You should keep in mind that moderateness is a virtue and there’s always a line by crossing which you may lose it all.

In the second half of 2015 when Jupiter moves into the Zodiac of Virgo Leo will get more concerned with the issues associated with material wellbeing and financial stability. It is during this time that you may expect to work on an interesting project and land a well-paying exciting job which will provide for all future expenses.

Special attention should be paid to the summer months of 2015 when Saturn has a negative influence on your family relations. You, dear Lions, should first and foremost be with your household members during this time. Be involved, show initiative, communicate with your close ones, and help them solve their problems. Even if they deny the very existence of critical situations, they will still desperately need your support. Try to spend more time with your family during summer time, have family fun, and enjoy time outdoors. Vacationing with a whole family will also help preserve peace and harmony in your home.

If sometime during the period of June-August 2015 you start thinking of renovating, you should do away with this idea right away. Any renovation projects for your Zodiac sign can be fraught with the most unfortunate consequences. Even if you and your significant other are enjoying a perfect relationship at the end of spring, your ideas of how to arrange your nest could be so drastically different that disagreements can cause a serious break up. Undertaking selling or buying real estate is not advisable, either, during this time. You should think of postponing these matters till the fall when you have more financial opportunities and various options to realize your ideas.

Additional Information for 2015 Leo Horoscope

If your birthday falls on sometime between August 4 and August 11, you may then fully count on unconditional support from above. The Leo from this group may notice many unusual changes happening in their life in 2015 which will expedite solving many problems that have been dragging for quite some time. Apart from Jupiter’s favorable influence on your Zodiac sign, in 2015 Uranus will have a significant impact on you which will first of all promote Leo’s career ambitions. However, when it comes to the Leo involved in politics or those of you with a creative profession or engaged in the sphere of art or any other public activity, the planets’ influence will prove especially noticeable and interesting result-wise: many Leos involved in the above-mentioned spheres will become famous. Yes, they will! The conditions found in 2015 horoscope for your Zodiac sign will promote your achievements online and on TV even if you have never given a thought to becoming popular. Also, those of you who look for popularity should resort to the most unconventional ways to achieve a cherished goal. Moreover, Uranus can make your social status change considerably. You may decide to change your life – once and for all. Your friends and family might be shocked by such turn of events, but you shouldn’t pay any attention to their concerns. Everything you’ve got planned will be sure to come true – you’ll enjoy wellbeing and new opportunities.

The rest of the Leo sign natives should not lose heart since their opportunities will not deplete and the changes they will experience throughout 2015 will prove favorable and positive. Everything discussed above has the most direct impact on you, too, with the only exception of the Lions born in early August who will enjoy the best that life can bring.

Finances Horoscope 2015
2015 will prove to be quite successful for Leo’s financial life. In the first half of 2015 your income will fully depend on your social and business activity. The more often you make public appearances and the louder you advertise your professional talents the more “profitable” this behavior will be. This way you’ll be sure to kill two birds with one stone: you’ll indulge in self-admiration and receive a financial bonus.

In the second half of the year Leo’s money appetite will grow: you’ll want more money, but your expenses will be equally high. During this time you should steer all your efforts toward locating new income sources and more favorable job options which will ensure the lifestyle you want. Don’t limit your wishes; strive for more and you’ll get it. However, you should watch out for loans and credits – rely on your own power and financial opportunities when making large acquisitions; don’t borrow money no matter how favorable offers could seem. You shouldn’t lend money, either – even to your good friends and close relatives – you may have your financial inflow dry up.

A period between July 25 and September 8 when your desire of extravagance and luxury is particularly high should be mentioned separately. Try to hold your horses – don’t buy big; don’t invest; otherwise, you may lose a larger portion of your savings.

During the period of September 26-November 12 you should be particularly watchful of your expenses. This is the time when money can disappear like sand through your fingers no matter how hard you may try to save and limit your expenditures. Protect your belongings; don’t make large deals. During this time your expenses will exceed your revenues and you should be more serious when tackling the issue of safeguarding your savings.

Acquiring real estate and making large purchases for home should better be planned for the period of December 6-30. And summer months should be avoided in terms of any investments in home improvements/renovations.

The most favorable periods for large acquisitions and investments are January 28-February 20, April 12-May 7 and September 7-October 9.

Career:

Many Lions will make a decision to drastically change their professional occupation in 2015. You will be after the job that could help you explore your potential, make you enjoy it, aid in becoming famous and generate good income. You’ll be prepared to work day and night on exciting new projects. It’ll be interesting for you to dive into a new world, new responsibilities and new social circle. The zest you’ll have for your new job can only be compared to the student who has just graduated and started their first job. You should keep in mind that in the second half of 2015 when Jupiter enters the Zodiac of Virgo you may find the job that will completely satisfy your salary criteria.

The Lions who for various reasons would prefer to keep their current job should keep in mind that during the summer months there may be some hiccups associated with being paid or getting a desired income; there may also be some difficulties in the relations with your management during this time.

During the summer time many Lions will have to tackle the issues connected with their career growth. You’ll want to be promoted and have your responsibilities change; a career growth will seem the easiest and most logical solution in this case; moreover, it’ll call for the least amount of effort you’ll have to make. During the period between the end of July and the first decade of September your professional authorities can be taken away. In addition to your core managerial responsibilities they may impute regular specialist’s duties to you. Be prepared to accept the circumstances – this will help you earn respect of your superiors and give you a chance to take advantage of it in the future.

The Lions of creative professions can count on becoming more popular in the first half of 2015. You should consider cooperating with foreigners, working abroad and taking active part in various educational events. This will help you showcase your potential and make you more famous.

Entrepreneurial Lions will have to work hard during 2015. You should focus on imported goods and working with foreign companies. Even a regular business trip abroad can boost your business. The second half of 2015 holds a promise of good profit if during the first half of the year you won’t stay idle.

January :
o, the zodiac Sign in which the Fire trigon reaches its energetic peak, will enter a new and an entirely new life phase in January 2015. Throughout this month, the influence of the Sun – the planet-ruler of Leo will be multiplied in strength due to the general position of this celestial body. A similar situation will affect Pluto, which is the planet-exalt of Leo, meaning that it is responsible for the flourishing of its life strength. Overall, this extraordinary sign is destined to feel an incredible specter of emotions in the beginning of the year, various positive and helpful emanations occurring due to the position of the stars. The Leos may discover new talents they didn’t know they had, they can achieve perfection in any area, but all of this is in the future – perhaps already by the middle of the year. Currently, it is necessary to focus on one’s own feelings and desires. Uranus and Mercury, traditionally the antagonists of Leo, will be fully blocked by the Sun and Pluto. At the same time, the “celestial leader” of the Fire trigon – the Moon will enter into a confrontation with Neptune and will prevent its negativity. Only Mars will maintain his strength and influence, but he will clearly fall short of exerting any influence onto the decisions of Leos. This is a very positive period that may become a quality base for a rapid fast to the top.

In relation to the area of finances, January 2015 will not bring Leo any special earnings. Everything will go the way it should in the framework of what had been planned. However, towards the end of the first ten-day period, you will suddenly recognize that your abilities significantly surpass the specter of your current responsibilities. Do not be afraid to widen the horizons of your competency. If awareness and your level of mastery permit you do something, then do it. Someone may stand in your way, but trust that he has no chances if you are actually right and are doing what fully corresponds to your essence. When problems arise with management, ask yourself this question – is this a place where you can realize your potential to its fullest degree? If yes, then continue on forward and you will reach success. If no, then you should probably change your place of work. This is an exit that you have been seeking for a long time, so you should not be afraid of cardinal changes. Half-measures are not what you need, not right now – not ever. You have a passion and effort, as well as the support of your celestial benefactors. You can go to another firm or start your own business – do not be afraid of responsibility, as only it defines your real importance and real capabilities

In the sphere of personal relationships, everything will be no less unambiguous. Two-three days before the New Moon (January 20), towards the end of the second ten-day period of the month, you will realize where you have made a mistake. This realization will come suddenly, as a vision, as a collection of all the combined guesses and feelings. Make a decision – what, or precisely who is more important to you. Stop running between two fires, remember the old and wise saying about two rabbits. Make a decision and see how this certainty plays out itself. With time it will bring stability, such stability that you couldn’t even dream of. Everything will come to balance and your feelings will guide you themselves to the correct course of action. Do not be afraid that you have to hurt someone, lying is incompatible with happiness. If you made a mistake once, that doesn’t mean that you can’t change it. You just need the desire and a little bravery to take a leap. Be determinate, but soft; be strong, but flexible. Talk to people, try to understand them and accept them the way they are. The world will suddenly become simpler and brighter. Concentrate on the current day, as tomorrow is its logical continuation.

Thursday, December 18, 2014

Peshawar Killing. Global Shock.

We have lost 144 children today. 7 Terrorists stormed an Army Public School in Peshawar on 16th December 2014 and shot children. Children. Children who wanted to grow up and make the world a better place, to dream, to earn, to fly, to laugh, to live. There is no justification for this act of gruesome murder. There is no humanity left.

16th December seems to be a black day in history. 2 years ago it was the Nirbhaya case that made the world sit up and take notice and now it’s shootings of 144 children in a school in Peshawar.

Needless to say every Whatsapp group is now sharing rage rather than jokes. The papers are showing images of people and children all around the world praying for peace. We are all numbed by this horrific act of the Taliban.

No! Life cannot go on until the world unites in stopping these heinous crimes. Unless the world says these are our children, not yours, but ours, nobody can move. Till the world says I feel your pain. Help us, help you. let us not look away. It is not their pain. It is not their loss. It is not another country that India has a love–hate relationship with. It is children of the world. Innocent, beautiful, high hopes and dreams children who wondered what they did wrong as they were shot in the head!

We need to connect to each other beyond boundaries, beyond religion, beyond economic stratas. It’s time to take ownership of this heinous crime. 
The world should not move on to Christmas till the governments make a plan and only we can put force on them to do. Write about it. Tweet about it.

I hear voices that say nothing will change. Osama Bin laden was killed but nothing changed. Things will change when nations stand together. When every media agency puts pressure on the governments concerned to root out the snakes in their back yard, things will change. To not categorize good and bad within Taliban and bring each one to justice, things will change. Every human being is supposed to have some good in them but the 7 terrorists who killed the innocent children as they cried and begged and pleaded for mercy and saw their friends shot point blank in the head and their teacher burned alive, those terrorists have no good in them. There is no justification.

There is no pain greater than losing a child. There are widows and orphans. But there is no word for the loss of a child.

Peshawar we are with you. We will stay with you.


Sunday, November 16, 2014

Scandalous Housewives Review: Strong, Unflinching Women.

"What is commendable is that the author's portrayal of women isn't stereotypical. Though all the protagonists are housewives, neither of them has been portrayed as gharelu, sushil, sundar type nor the other extreme - promiscuous...the pace keeps you hooked." Sneha Madhavan. Absolute India newspaper.

Buy Scandalous Housewives here: http://goo.gl/6AQ4DC

Saturday, November 15, 2014

The Art of a Good Kiss


My first boyfriend didn’t know how to kiss. He would just open his mouth and slobber all over my lips. It was awful. No matter how nice and wonderful he was, I had to dump him because he never got the fact that kissing was the most sensuous thing for a woman.
Kissing keeps your relationship alive. Kissing is the first step to foreplay. Kissing is an art that require less saliva and more intention. Kissing is always followed by wise words! Here are the different types.  
1.     Getting to know you kiss – The first or second date kiss. After a lovely conversation you are dropping the girl home. You know a little about her and think she’s really hot. You don’t want to over step. So you walk her in front of her place and face her. Lean in slightly, close your eyes, open your mouth by only half an inch like a fish and kiss her softly. Don’t use your tongue and don’t suck around anything! If she likes it, she’ll ask you do it again. Repeat. Don’t try to grope, etc because she’s liked this! Say “Good night.”

2.     Stop the Car Kiss – You don’t know where your relationship is going. You’ve had a mad fight. You’re upset and she’s hurting. That’s when you need to take action. You need to salvage the situation. You stop the car, un--belt yourself and lean over, pull her head slightly towards you gently and kiss her with your mouth ( 1 inch open.) No tongue. No licking. No slobbering. Just a deep kiss like you’re taking in a gulp of fresh air, fresh love. Say “I love you.”

3.     Do you want to have sex kiss – You’re both alone in a room. You want to start a process. Stand facing each other or you can sit holding each other. Start by kissing her mouth slowly without using your tongue. Use your lips to kiss her lips, her cheeks, behind her ears, her neck. Go slow. Count to three before planting a kiss and doing another one. As if you’re drawing her out of her shell. Don’t be in a hurry. Come back to her mouth. Now begin to kiss a little more passionately. Slowly with each kiss open your mouth a little more till you can slip your tongue in. Now you’ve mastered the “French Kiss.” Don’t probe around like a spy. Don’t produce too much saliva. Drink in her sweetness. She’ll soon say yes. Say “I need you.”

4.     Long Time No See Kiss – Sometimes things need to become a little more aggressive and intense. You haven’t seen your spouse/ mate for a long time. The pent up feelings have been burning inside you. You need to show her how much you missed her. There is no time for the gentleness of it all. As soon as you are in a private place, hold her head with both your hands and draw her into you for a kiss. As soon as her head is close to you, wrap your arms around her waist and hold her closer. Kiss her with closed mouth at first going towards her neck and ears and quickly come back to her lips. Open your mouth and kiss as if you’re taking air from after drowning. After about five six kisses, use your tongue. Don’t start with your tongue. You’ll be surprised at how it puts women off even if they were in the mood for a while! (Yes women are strange creatures!) Close your eyes and kiss her. Then open and look at her, panting, making sure she is reading your signals and before she can start speaking again, (of course they will!) start the process of kissing her again repeating your steps of lips, cheeks, ear, neck on the other side. Use your tongue more now. Say “I missed you.”

5.     Thank You Kiss – You’ve had great sex, she’s got you a lovely present, you’ve had a nice dinner, whatever the occasion, you must thank her with a kiss. This kiss is soft and gentle, firm and affirmative. Like I know what you’ve given me and I really appreciate it. Put your thumb and forefinger together. That’s the amount you should open your mouth for this type of kiss. Don’t use tongue again, unless she gives you a look that says she would like to be thanked in a “better” manner. Then use step 3 or step 4 for it. Say “Thank you.”

6.     Let’s Be Friends Kiss – So a woman might be into you but you don’t really want to go down that road. A peck on the cheek, a peck on the forehead and a peck on the back of her hand means you still want to remain friends but you don’t think of her in “that way.” A peck means “Not now.” A quick peck can be given to your mate at any time on the cheek, hand or lips to say you’re grateful for them in your life. Say “You’re wonderful.”

7.     The Professional Hickey Kiss – Once you’ve mastered the art of how to use your mouth, your tongue and your lips, you can move on to biting. This is the slightly rough SnM type of kiss. When you can bit the corners of her mouth so that it pinches just a bit just for a moment. It’s pulling with your lips and a bit of your teeth her lips. During sex, this can cause a hickey. Use your mouth to cover a part of her skin on her body, the neck, or shoulders and hold your mouth and teeth over it for as long as you can and suck in. Only do this when she’s about to have an orgasm or she’ll be turned off. Say “God I want you!”

Always understand the mood of each kiss. When in doubt, begin with the first step. Never push it too much if she’s not comfortable. Have fun!
 

Thursday, November 13, 2014

Relationships and Physics

Me. What do you think about relationships?
Male friend - Its like physics.  Free protons r energy particles flying arr. No neg or positive charge. Sometimes they join a neg atom and make it a positive atom. Now the protons change a lot to be a part of the atom and give up freedom of flying arr and choose to circle an orbit in an atom. And the only change the atom goes through is that its charge changes from neg to positive. Like men.

So. Basic laws of physics.

Me. Aahh.

Monday, October 20, 2014

The Kung Fu of Foreplay


Foreplay seems like a land Far Far way, where no man has ever gone. And no man has ever understood.
Foreplay is that word, that phenomenon, that enigma that eludes the comprehension of every male in the world. Yes, there are a few who will say they can last “45 minutes.” Or even declare, “They can give the best orgasm to the woman.” But do not kid yourself when you say you are good at foreplay. No matter how many educational degrees you have acquired, or diploma courses you’ve taken in your life, foreplay is the one course that you’ve never been interested in. Foreplay is the degree, the idea, the intent that you need to master to keep your woman, any woman at your mercy always.
Now before you understand what foreplay is you must change three things about yourself.
1.      Patience – You will need patience to master this phenomenon.
2.      Softness – You will need delicate fingertips and be gentle when you have foreplay.
3.      Timing – If you move to an erogenous zone too fast, you’ve lost your woman. She will be thinking of her chores and immediately say she has a headache.
Men don’t need foreplay too much. They love a blow job. Need a little ear tickle. And presence of a woman. Not necessarily in that order. But women always need foreplay. Otherwise they’ll agree to have sex with you once or twice, but you can rest assure that it will not be fantastic, she may lie there like a corpse and/or if she is married she will figure out how to have an affair.
So the key of giving great foreplay is to go slowly. So remember to spend at least 4-5 minutes on each zone.  
The 9 Erogenous Zones to Great Foreplay:
1.      Mouth – You must be able to kiss her without your hands roaming all over her body. Hold her close. Stroke her hair. Kiss her lips, corners of her mouth, gently use your tongue to arouse her further. Do not use your tongue vigorously. You don’t always need to prove you’re passionate. Prove you are gentle and she’ll respect you more.

2.      Neck - Nibble at her ears, behind her neck, down the length of her neck and shoulders. Slowly blow air as you kiss and blow simultaneously across her neck and shoulders, crossing to the other side and repeating the action. Each side taking a few minutes.

3.      Arms – With the tips of your fingers you can stroke your woman’s. Remember counting is important here. While you run your three or four fingers alternatively down her arm, it should take you about ten – fifteen seconds per each length. Place them gently on her arm from shoulder to finger tips as if you’re a slow energy that is drumming against her and pulling away at her fingers.

4.      Back - Once she feels comfortable to remove her clothes, swivel her around slowly and use the tips of your fingers to make patterns on her back. Not your entire palm. Just your fingers. Raise your fingers and place them gently back again, giving her a bit of suspense where she will be touched next. Pretend to make waves with your fingertips across her back. Remember to finish one pattern of a wave down her back before you begin making concentric circles, or making waves her along the length of her sides timidly near her breasts.

5.      Knee – Here is a secret. Under the knee is one of the most erogenous zones of a woman and rarely explored. Put your fingers together, not in a fist, as if you’re making a flower bud, hold it under her knee and release the fingertips as if the flower is opening. Do this very gently for ten seconds till the entire fingertips open. Do this a few times even on one knee. You don’t need to do it on both sides. One knee is enough for arousal.

6.      Toes – Many women love getting their toes sucked. Gently run your fingers across her pedicured feet and take her one toe in your mouth at a time. You don’t need to spend too much time here.

7.      Breasts – Gently running your fingertips across both her breasts will arouse her more than you tugging at them. Flick her nipples with your tongue. Rub your tongue around the areola. Kiss her breasts. Sometimes you don’t need to suck or tug. Also you don’t need to head to the other side and do the same with the other breast unless she asks you. The purpose is to arouse her, not to find balance in life.

8.      Clitoris – Most men hate going down on women. But you can always use your fingers. Once she is aroused from all the other zones, put two fingers in and keep your thumb out. Gently move the two fingers in and out and move the thumb in circles around, outside the vagina. If you can kiss her, lick her, probe your tongue into her alternatively while using your fingers, you’ve pretty much mastered foreplay.

9.      Brain – Do not indulge in dirty talk while you are trying to arouse your woman. You can do that later during intercourse. Or you can do it on the phone when you can’t feel each other. But while you are being gentle, slow and sensitive, you must indulge in silence or simple questions like “Do you like this. Do you want more? Where do you want me to touch you?” Let her lie back and enjoy herself. Keep conversation about her.
Warning – Do not mention anything related to house, children, finances, in laws, body weight, your work, bosses, maids, etc. A woman’s mood is as delicate as china ware. No matter how much of the above zones you have aroused, one mention of the above topics will shatter her want and see her getting dressed and putting on her favourite TV show.
Having foreplay may be a slightly longer process to getting sex but it’s a sure shot process and it will leave the woman desiring you forever!
Published in Maxim magazine October issue:

 

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

India Today Woman

This is the second time I've been featured in the India Today Woman magazine.
Feel completely honoured and humbled by this experience.
It just goes to show that the Universe is looking out for you so just do your work and things will happen.
Scandalous Housewives Mumbai is a super success. I feel that after the end of this series I'll stop writing books for some time. Will take a break to try something new.
It's the October issue for all those who want to read the article. 
And my book is available at Flipkart Amazon Infibeam. You can pick the story you want to read! 

Saturday, October 11, 2014

Are Relationships Necessary?

Was pondering this a few nights ago. Got the answer back from a friend today. Thought I shd blog abt it. What do you think?

Q. Are relationships meant to stagnate? Or die out? Or do ppl carry on bcos they believe in that love and find new shades? Do the relationships even matter in the long run?

A.In my opinion- almost all  relationships tend to follow a pre-determined course because of the common denomination of human behaviour. Comfort and subsequent stagnation and lethargy are therefore common consequences in a romantic one. Relationships matter till you are determined to play an active part in society- so their failure or success affect one's idea of well being. As to the importance of a single relationship, that's entirely dependent on the people involved. No relationship is indispensable. How important a role it plays in yur personal happiness quotient is what determines when its time to let go.

Sunday, September 21, 2014

Scandalous Housewives Book Review

By The Dehradun Post
by NEHA SAINI on SEPTEMBER 21, 2014

More than raunchy tale of Lust, Kinky Sex!

Madhuri Banerjee is back with another racy read on love and relationships titled ‘Scandalous Housewives: Mumbai’. The book revolves around the lives of four housewives living in a residential high rise of Mumbai. As the parallel stories of these four women progress forward, the reader is compelled to ponder upon the role a housewife (read homemaker) plays in a family.

The book promises a raunchy tale of lust, lies, betrayal and of course a final show down but I would urge you not to judge the book by its cover. At many points the novel surprises the reader by the immense depth of its female characters and their paradigm shifting portrayal. Amidst the kinky sex episodes and saucy secrets, the author portrays the ‘lovely ladies’ in bold colours of liberty, breaking all forms of restraint; pushing all boundaries and stepping over all thresholds.

The plot of the story, though thin through the initial half, gathers pace as the story progresses. The lives of the four friends entangle in a meshwork of explosive lies and as all of them strive to maintain the peace of their households, a threatening email shatters everything to the floor; and this marks the real and ultimate test of their ties of friendship. However will they survive?

I must mention here that the plot is a little unfathomable and shaky at certain points, being a major turn off. This line marks my favourite point in the novel – “The best thing a father can give to a child is respect to the mother.”

If you’re looking for a masala weekend read, I’d say go for ‘Scandalous Housewives: Mumbai’ and you may end up with a little more than you bargained for.

I have purposefully not given it any ratings since I wrote the review keeping in mind that the reader would pick it up just as a weekend read. I haven’t judged it with the same standards as I would an Ayn Rand book. I hope that’s okay.

Available on Flipkart Amazon.in and Infibeam

Friday, September 12, 2014

A Maxim-umm Moment

There are three milestones that would make an author complete.
1. When you win an international prize (Man Booker/ Pulitzer)   
2. When your book sells really well. (1 Million plus copies)
3. When you get a column to write. (Maxim!)
When Maxim magazine asked me to be their Sex and Relationship columnist, I knew I had achieved at least one out of the three things I wanted from my career.
 

But when they called me and told me they wanted to launch my book and me as a columnist in a grand event, I was overwhelmed.
See, I have a confession to make; I am terribly afraid of public speaking. I feel anxious and nervous. I don’t sleep for several nights. I wonder incessantly what I will say, how I will look, and what I will do.
When I finally went on stage my heart was fluttering and I had butterflies in my stomach.
The Emcee asked me, “What inspired you to write Scandalous Housewives? Are any of these stories true?”
And in that moment I lost all my inhibition. If I wasn’t going to be just me, what was the point?
I took a deep breath and replied with a straight face. “Yes. They’re all autobiographical!” Then I smiled finally. And the audience laughed. That made the rest of the questions, the reading and the evening pass beautifully.
When I spoke to Richa Chaddha the actress from Gangs of Wasseypur she told me, “I can’t believe you were so bold and funny. You inspired me!”

My Sex column is in the latest issue of Maxim magazine. My book Scandalous Housewives is on Flipkart and Amazon right now.

Two days later, I gave a talk in Indore on stage for one hour on “Love, Life & Chances”. And I have decided to give more talks in public about every topic I feel from my heart. I’ve realised apart from books, columns, awards and the limelight, I need to be me and talk about what I believe. And that should be the 4th goal of every writer’s life.
Inspiration comes from everywhere. It’s all around us. And we need to give back to truly be successful. So thank you Maxim for giving me that step to do more with my life.   

Watch it on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=scandalous+housewives 

Storizen September Issue:
https://issuu.com/storizen/docs/sept2014/7?e=0

Flipkart link to Scandalous Housewives: http://goo.gl/3J2MIr

Amazon Link : http://goo.gl/4Y1edx